The Queen of Hearts .... Sweethearts

This weekend I had a chat with the reigning Ms Sweethearts, BroadwayGirl1, to find out what her experience has been like so far.  The interview took place on the Sweethearts Jazz Club, Ballroom floor.

There’s much more to beauty pageants than waving and smiling, or at least there should be. 

Pageant contestants are often derided for being “cookie cut outs.”  They often sport similar looks, recurring hairstyles and predictable dresses.  But the urge to conform is not unique to beauty pageants.  In any endeavour, especially judged competitions, it’s a common trap to fall into what you think is the pre-ordained mould of a winner.   The long and the short of it is just be yourself, whether you are preparing for a pageant or just generally in life.

Good things come to those who wait

Blake and Shannon facilitate romance and love in Second Life with their Sweethearts Jazz Club and Sweethearts Select, of that there is no dispute.  What follows is another Sweethearts love story which is testimonial to what it is that Sweethearts is all about.

This is Elita and Cyle’s story.

Elita came to Second Life after seeing and ad.  Six years later she is still here.  Cyle came to SL to help his sister who was ill at the time, and seven years later he too is still here.

Elita took a job as hostess for Sweethearts and Cyle was a regular patron.

Cyle said “I would stand up on the balcony watching the room when this girl would drop in from the sky and jump on stage and start hosting, I could watch her for hours.”

In doing her job she would greet the patrons in local chat including Cyle, and encourage him to come down.  He was a bit offhand about it and he told her “when I have something to come down for I will be down.”  Day after day he continued watching her come down from the sky, and go about being a hostess.

Laws of Attraction

Most of us seek a partner, for life or at least for a while, but how do we choose? The Laws of Attraction apply to Second Life as much as they do in real life. And how often have you heard your pessimistic friends complain that it is so difficult to meet anyone in Second Life, only to complain when they do get a date that they could “do better”.  Does that mean that their expectations are unrealistic?  Do they have onerous checklists that potential dates need to live up to? How often do you find that what you want and what you get don’t always share the same boat?  The bottom line is to balance our dreams, desires and wants with what is also realistic, and being ‘realistic’ means to have found the means to be content with both the good and the bad.

Lonely in Second Life

“When you're surrounded by all these people, it can be lonelier than when you're by yourself. You can be in a huge crowd, but if you don't feel like you can trust anyone or talk to anybody, you feel like you're really alone.”   ― Fiona Apple

Being lonely in SL, is that even possible, I hear you ask.  It most definitely is.  I would even go as far as to say that at one time or another we have all suffered from a bout of loneliness in SL, some of us more than others. We all get lonely at times. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with us.

Most of us need someone to validate our existence, but at what cost?  Sometimes we end up doing things that aren’t true to ourselves, and what for, a bit of fleeting attention, only to be left hollower than we were before, and with an actual physical pain.  It's an ache in your chest, a heaviness that you can't shake, a longing that only the connection to another person can soothe.

Sweethearts Jazz Club Love Stories

Sweethearts Jazz Club is all about romance and friendship and the owners of Sweethearts, Shannon and Blake, epitomise what their venues represent in Second Life.  Although they did not meet in SL they have grown as a couple because of SL.  This was made most evident at their marriage vow renewal ceremony a year or so ago.

Blake said:  “I've never had a moment's doubt. I love you. I believe in you completely. You are my dearest one. My reason for life.” By Ian McEwan from Atonement.  I believe this quote encompasses all that Blake went to great lengths to share with us about how he feels for Shannon.  Those of us present at the ceremony were left in no doubt that he truly loves his beloved Shannon.

Dance and Love a match made in heaven

Sweethearts Jazz Club is all about romance, it is the very essence of who we are.  It is our mission in Second Life to facilitate romance, friendship and if we have anything to do with it, helping our friends in the pursuit of love itself.

Socialising is one of the main features of Second Life and our venues provide an elegant setting to do exactly that, socialise….

We know it can be somewhat daunting though, this socialising business in SL.  The hanging around waiting for someone to speak to you, can be tiresome and makes you feel a bit like a cow at a cattle market.  But when someone eventually chat’s to you and then asks you to dance, it makes it all worthwhile.  Obviously you won’t make a significant connection with everyone you dance with, but when you do there is nothing more gratifying.

Ms Sweethearts 2015

Ms Sweethearts 2015 is Ms Broadwaygirl1 Resident,

Read the interview with Ms Sweethearts Here